Bonds Teach Love
Loving families lay the foundation for our eternal progress. They help us
build strengths, identify and overcome weaknesses, and bring challenges
of their own for us to overcome. They significantly influence us in our
earthly missions and affect how we influence others in their missions. Every
family bond--with spouse, children, parents, grandparents, grandchildren,
in-laws, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.--can play a crucial role in teaching
us how to love and be loved. (The Ripple Effect pp. 187-188)
And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart
of the children to their fathers,... (Malachi 4:6, KJV)
Father, thank you for each member of my family. Help me love each one as
you do, so that my spirit may expand in love and in desire to serve.
The Power of Love
In a note on my home page, I mention how tragic it is that our children
are no longer safe in today's schools. It is tragic--and frightening--because
shootings and other violent acts on campuses are not perpetrated by adults.
Rather, it is our children themselves who are turning in deadly force
against each other, even at young ages. Why is this happening? And how
can we stop it? Unfortunately, by installing more metal detectors, hiring
more security, and enacting stiffer laws we are only reacting to symptoms
of a dark and growing sickness which threatens our world. During my near-death
experience I saw this sickness in vision, and I saw its effects. The sickness
is the diminishing of human love in the earth and the loss of reverence
toward creation. The effects are chaos, misery and fear, and the many
catastrophes I was shown which await the earth if mankind collectively
continues to break universal laws. What we must accept is that the cause
and the cure for this sickness, including the cause and cure for child-against-child
violence, resides at the foundation of our society: within our very homes.
When I decided to publish Dr. James E. Shaw's book, "Jack
& Jill, Why They Kill: A Parent's Guide," I did it because it teaches
so effectively what I know to be true. Dr.
Shaw has interviewed over 100 kids who are in prison today for killing
other kids. In every case, it was the breakdown of family love, in particular
the lack of active parental love, which led ultimately to the crimes that
put these kids behind bars. In my near-death experience I was shown that
the roles of father and mother are sacred roles. Their responsibilities
cannot be set aside without risk of creating the type of painful consequences
described in Dr. Shaw's book. Godly parental love and a spirit of nurturing
and selfless caring must exist in our homes. When these are absent, children
grow up emotionally malnourished. Their spirits are injured. They may
develop deep deformities of soul which will eventually come to the surface
to be dealt with, sometimes creating tragic consequences. When love and
nurturing do exist at home, children thrive. They acquire these attributes
themselves and grow up in turn to become loving, faithful parents.
In "The Ripple Effect"
I wrote that "our tender children are precious to God. They come to us
straight from him--innocent, trusting, and forgiving. They bring the light
and love of God with them and willingly place their untouched hearts into
our hands to be molded as we choose. We can nurture and expand the love
that is already in them, or we can crush it" (page 48). Within our children
lies the future, the hope and promise of this world. It is not surprising
that certain forces at play should focus destructive energies upon families
and youth. How much more critical it is then, as parents or as adult caregivers,
that we increase our efforts to defend and protect and nurture in love
those directly under our care. We are not alone in this responsibility,
and we must not fear. We can turn for help to God, who is the Perfect
and Eternal Parent of all children, and who delights in loving and helping
us watch over them. We can succeed in Him.
My humble gift to you in this issue of my newsletter is the following
prayer. Use it as an example, changing the wording to fit your situation
and using the child's name instead of "my child." May God bless us all
in our efforts to be good and loving parents. And may our world, as a
result, be filled with greater light and love.
Prayer for My Child
there are forces in this world which would harm my child. Surround him
with protecting angels. Go before and behind him each day, and guide
him in safe paths. Make him wise in choosing places to enter and in
choosing friends and companions to be with. Whisper in his ear when
danger is near, and show him the way to safety. Make the adults around
him vigilant and aware. Bless their efforts to create a sheltered environment
for all children in their care. Bless my child to do his part in helping
and defending others. That he may be a peacemaker and treat everyone
with respect. That he may never hurt another out of anger or ill will.
Bless him to learn the joy of being a friend to all. Father, help me
teach my child good ways to solve his problems and to resolve his differences
with others. May my example show him tolerance and forgiveness and generosity.
When necessary, let my guiding hand correct him firmly but never unkindly.
Help me to be a good listener and not too quick to judge. Bless our
home, Father, to be a sanctuary of acceptance and unconditional love,
so that my child will feel safe to open his heart and his feelings here.
That he may know he is loved and respected and cherished always. That
your love which is in him may blossom and grow. That he may become all
that you want him to be. Father, let affection and tenderness flow freely
between us, that our home may reflect a bit of heaven on earth. That
as my child goes into the world, his influence may heal and give light
to others. As your Son did, Father. I ask in Jesus' name. Amen.
News and Updates
As mentioned on my home page, I am nearing completion of my new book.
I have certainly felt heaven's direction while preparing it. The work
has taken a course I had not expected, which is often God's way. And I
have learned much by the process. This book is full of offerings for meditation
and prayer on many subjects which come into our lives daily. I feel it
will be useful for those wishing to draw nearer to God and to personalize
their relationship with him---in other words, it's for all of us! Watch
my home page for further information as publication time approaches.
We are in need of more submissions for the Mother's Prayer section of
the website. If you have an experience where a mother's prayer was answered,
even in a simple way, please share it with us.
Mother's Prayers Submission Page
Thank you to the many friends and readers who sent me birthday greetings
this month. Your remembrance and loving thoughts mean a lot to me. May
God bless you for your kindness.