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For
some survivors, peace does not come easily. I have met loving people
who are overwhelmed with doubt about whether they made the right choice.
Guilt generally follows that decision to let someone you love die.
That pain of guilt is unnecessary and unfounded. When our decision
to let a loved one go is made with prayer and purity of heart, then
we are obeying the most fundamental law of all, to love one another
as we would love ourselves, and we will eventually receive in kind.
Because of their
love for us, those we love can often find a way to express their love
and gratitude to us long after their souls have left this earth. Many
who make their transition will try to make contact right away, and
we can receive that communication when we are ready to accept it.
Faith and forgiveness
are the gifts we have to help us get through the pain of any loss,
especially the loss of a life that ends after man prolongs it. But
for some the test of faith is almost too difficult. Many survivors
whose grief is so powerful tell me that they fear they have lost their
will to live. One of those survivors came into my life just recently.
I was drawn to Sherrie's letter, and when I called her, she said that
the call came during her darkest moments of despair. I'm glad that
I reached out to her and grateful for her willingness to share her
experience with others. Knowing that it is okay to let go, perhaps
more people will begin to heal.
Sherrie wrote
to me a few months after burying her husband, at a time, she said,
when she was searching for answers "that neither doctors, priests,
family, nor friends could provide." Sherrie was living with the life-and-death
decisions she had made concerning her husband, who, after eleven months
in a coma, made his transition to the other side following her decision
not to continue the treatment that had sustained him. "I knew that
the person lying there connected to all of mankind's inventions was
not the person I had loved for so long," she wrote. "Even though I
knew deep down that I had done everything possible for him, I still
wondered if I had done enough."
When I called
her, I could feel the depth of her despair—the fear that she had
made the wrong decision and the loneliness in which she suffered that
fear. Our spirits connected that day I called, and I knew why I had
been led to her, and she to me. Even over the telephone, I could sense
our exchange of energy, as we shared the magic of unconditional love.
I encouraged her to tell me her story. She was grateful for the opportunity
to do so, and my heart went out to her. |
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